“Bring to me what You have spoken of me.” “Bring me to what You have spoken of me.”
Genesis 18:19 For I have known him, in order that he may command his children and his household after him, that they keep the way of the LORD, to do righteousness and justice, that the LORD may bring to Abraham what He has spoken to him.”
“Bring to me, God, what you have spoken of me.” That is my prayer. I want what Abraham had. For first few weeks of 2013 and the last few of 2012, this has been my prayer. It is designed to bring healing to some scars in my soul. Over life and time and relationships we all encounter betrayal and disloyalty and lack of gratefulness. It hurts. As a father of a family and a community initiative and a business invention, I thrive on “thank you” many times more than others do. A real father gets up every day looking to build those for whom he cares. When they take advantage of that, he is happy. At least if they are grateful and express it, he is happy. No healthy person likes to be “taken advantage of”. That is imbalance. Imbalance is painful and unhealthy.
The other side of that prayer is important also. “Bring me, Father, to what you have spoken of me.” Yes, bring it to me and bring me to it. I need to change to be more like the Father every day. As a father I need to be brought to the point of change, el punto de cambio.
Over these last few weeks, we’ve launched a definitive and irretrievable thrust into the community of Oklahoma City and the world. Sometimes you take steps in full assurance of faith that God will meet you on the path. Along that path are many points of change. You will encounter el punto de cambio, the point of change.
Change creates chaos. Make no mistakes on that measure. Introduce change to settled situation and watch the chaos. The more impact the change is designed to create, the more chaos you can expect in the beginning. “Why did we do this?” “Are you crazy?” “This won’t work.” All comes crackling back like a hot fire touching dry weeks and thistle. Those flames will singe and scar. Do it. Embrace “el punto de cambio”.
Note who stays and who goes and who supports and who decries. Yes, change means changing partners. Those that have walked with you just might disappear like a scissor-tail flycatcher slipping away from a fast diving hawk. In a flash and a flurry the hawk finds himself quite lonely and so does his prey.
The plus side of the equation is the new partners. Yes, when you commit to uncharted territory, there will be new partners. They can be loving and kind and supportive. Remember, they might leave you at the next “el punto de cambio”. This season they are with you . This season they are on the path. Many may stay for many weeks and even years. A friend of mine has worked with insurance brokers for decades. He advised me once, “Phil if you have 3000 brokers it means 1000 are staying, 1000 are going, and 1000 are coming. Out of the 1000 staying, 200 are producing. You just have to find out which is which.” His wisdom applies to most ventures. Not without pain.
Gideon took thousands and reduced the count to 300. Each “el punto de cambio” reduced the numbers until he found the committed. Of course he started with himself and an angel. Then he gathered a few friends and family. Then thousands jumped on board at the first signs of success and retreated at the first signs of scars.
About nine months ago, I was working with a group on a business invention. At the most critical “el punto de cambio” some of the backers jumped ship in a surprise move. Wow! We had walked together for years, and then for some undisclosed reason they lost heart and vision. Maybe another “el punto de cambio” came at them from another direction and swayed loyalties. Some shifts come and you will never know. You just carry the scars. Now I am working with a completely new team on the concepts and beginning to have fun again. Now I am working with another completely new team on a related concept and beginning to have fun again. Not without pain.
Each “point of change” has footholds. There are lessons to learn and take to the next “el punto de cambio”. At a recent gathering of a small group, more support was committed in a morning than all the folks to whom I have been giving for ten years. You read that right. Those that have been receiving for free have less commitment than the new. Maybe I should drop the old and embrace the new? Hmmmm…. A new foothold. Maybe I should begin a sorting process and whittle down to the 200? Is that a new foothold I see? Would my energy revitalize? My base is bigger now. Ten years ago it was 500. Now it is 7500. Let’s see, do the math. 2500 are going. 2500 are coming. 2500 are staying. Let the going go with blessing. Welcome the coming. Find the 500 in the staying and run shoulder to shoulder with them.
Healing in All
All of this has a point. You can live in the scars or you can live in the stars. There is a balance. Let the stars heal the scars. Let pains slip away. You flitted off the fence post and the hawk missed. Land among healthy friends. Don’t run alone.